Every cloud has a silver lining. Looking at hopeful aspect of a situation which is gloomy is a positive trait. It shows a progressive mind-set. If you are inclined to finding the silver lining in a rough situation you will be able to keep your head up. But a recent study suggests it can be harmful for your overall well-being. So, you cannot just follow it as a rule, your approach must depend on the situation. Read on to know more about the study and the reasoning.
According to a study published in Psychological Science, finding silver lining or “cognitive reappraisal” isn’t always the best approach to cope with regard to health. But recent finding is that this approach is beneficial only when the situation is not in one’s control. Consider a situation of bad weather or a flat tire, it is out of one’s control and one can only wish. For other situations where you do have control you should take a different approach than finding a positive side.
This is emphasising another philosophy that ‘one strategy doesn’t fit all’ and which is what the approach seems to be. Based on what we have been hearing we are likely to suggest anyone the same set of statements to help them cope with situations. But it is important to note that one needs to regulate emotion appropriately based on context and is healthier.
Basically, feeling a little bad is beneficial if the negative event was caused by oneself or was under one’s control. Without them one can’t learn from it and change. Feeling bad prepares our mind to change and also changes the thought process we have been dwelling in. It makes you try to prevent repetition by making you more alert and mindful.
But what about a situation where one believes it is out of one’s control. In this case the health factor will not be bad. But, overall it might not be beneficial as in the long run one could have done something to change the situation rather than cope. This leads us to an important question, “how do we understand that a situation is in one’s control or not?”
This is not as difficult as it may seem. Or it may be, if it is difficult to stay honest to oneself. It might clearly appear that a heavy rain made one fall into traffic jam and be late. But knowing it once, it should occur to oneself when a weather forecast happens for a similar thing in the future. Often, if one just blamed it on weather, one didn’t allow the brain to reflect upon it. Thus one misses it when the forecast happen again. Still the learning might happen after getting late for a second time and recalling that one saw a report and wondering why it didn’t occur to take notice and plan for it or take necessary steps such as starting early.
So, essentially seeing silver lining can be a good trait, but don’t let it blind you. The negative emotions are capable of affecting our minds deeply and can be a great motivator. To read more articles on motivation, visit CirQ PoS motivation blogs or additionally visit blog bit.ly/2hsbQ6O